“I think I’m having a midlife crisis…”
I said that at age 28 for the first time. One thing is for sure, no matter how terrible I felt, I didn’t have time for a crisis. I was a single mom of a 9 year old, working full-time and putting myself through college.
Busy, but terribly lonely. And, that loneliness led to mindless eating and too much time in my own head where I regularly beat myself up for not doing or being enough.
I guess you could say that my hobbies consisted of eating and serial dating.
After becoming a young, single mom, I committed to providing my son with security and I found that through my work. All of the things I had dreamed about doing or being when I grew up got shoved way down deep inside. I stopped pursuing my desire to find out who I was.
My identity became my career. My health took a backseat to it. My presence as a parent took a back seat to it. And as successful as I became, I constantly questioned my own competence.
I had deep rooted issues resulting in bad habits in nearly every area of my life. Besides being a work-a-holic to prove that I was competent in my career, my eating habits were out-of-freaking-control despite trying to convince myself I was on a diet, I was addicted to sugary coffee drinks in a bad way, I never exercised, my finances were sloppy, I denied the universe having my back (in fact I revolted against the thought of a higher-power for decades), and I said “no” to everything coming into my life (besides food, dates and work!). And, I kept telling myself I would be worthy after I accomplished the next thing on my list.
I was depressed, I was overwhelmed, I was stressed. And I had gained a lot of weight that made me feel terrible.
I was diagnosed as pre-diabetic and I didn't take action.
In fact, my midlife crisis was basically me fighting the conflicting voices in my own head. Voices about my past, who I thought I was, all of the mistakes I ever made, what I thought I could or couldn't accomplish, all of my problems, disappointment in myself... it seemed like I hated everything. I wanted to crawl out of my own skin. And, I hit three peaks of major medical crisis, each time getting stronger with intensity. The universe was telling me to wake up or die. I was slowly killing myself: body, mind and spirit.
I knew I had to transform my life. I had to learn how to respect myself. I had to learn to be comfortable with me. I had to get to know myself. I had to define what I really wanted. I had to get over the past and out of my story. I had to learn to love myself first, before anyone else could love me.
Learning these things ultimately led to me transforming my thoughts, feelings, and behaviors about my entire existence!
And, these days, I’m an entrepreneur, am no longer pre-diabetic, lost over 50 pounds and have committed to helping others down their own path of body-mind-spiritual transformations.
Mom, Wife, Entrepreneur, Author, Speaker, & Midlife Makeover Coach
Vanessa's Professional Certifications, Training & Education
TFT-Algo, Callahan Techniques, Thought Field Therapy, Certified
SHRM- CP, Society for Human Resources Management, Certified Professional
PHR, Human Resources Certification Institute, Certified Professional
GBA, International Foundation of Employee Benefit Plans, Group Benefits Associate, Certified
Reiki Master (Mazeski), Certified
Primal Health (Sisson), Certification-In-Progress
Core Transformation & Wholeness Techniques (Andreas), Trained
Life Coaching, Trained
Mindfulness Practitioner, Trained
Cognitive Behavior Technique, Trained
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Educated
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Educated
Bachelor of Science, Business Management, University of Phoenix (1994)